Topic: Modern Etiquette

Modern Etiquette: Why You Can’t Solve Problems on Twitter

Modern Etiquette: Why You Can't Solve Problems on Twitter

Earlier this year, singer/celebutante Kelly Osbourne and her then-fiance, model Luke Worrall, split up. The split was messy, with Kelly accusing Luke of cheating on her. Now, she has taken to her Twitter account to bash Luke and talk about what a bad guy he is. Although it should seem quite clear that Twitter is not a good way to deal with interpersonal issues, Kelly’s recent behavior makes me think that this concept could stand to be reiterated. So here goes. More »

Modern Etiquette: Does Being Polite Make You a Pushover?

Modern Etiquette: Does Being Polite Make You a Pushover?

When I was taking cotillion classes as a kid, our teachers would reiterate that the point of etiquette was to be an equalizer. In other words, since we all knew what politenesses were expected of us in social situations, everyone would feel comfortable. However, that’s not the case. Different cultures have different standards of etiquette, and etiquette often becomes a way to quickly indicate who came from the ‘right’ background and who didn’t. While common etiquette united the kids in my social circle, anyone from a different background would have immediately given themselves away as an outsider when they didn’t grab the right fork or know the proper pleasantry to use. More »

Modern Etiquette: How to Tell Your Friend You Don’t Want to Be Her Bridesmaid

Modern Etiquette: How to Tell Your Friend You Don't Want to Be Her Bridesmaid

Recently, my friend “Bonnie” and I were having a conversation about a mutual friend who is getting married. The friend asked Bonnie to be in her bridal party, and Bonnie – who hates our friend’s fiance and doesn’t approve of them getting married – struggled for a way to turn down the invite without looking like a jerk. Here are some ways to navigate a similar social situation: More »

Modern Etiquette: How to Negotiate Shared Holidays

Modern Etiquette: How to Negotiate Shared Holidays

he holidays are a wonderful time of family togetherness. Extended relatives make the once-a-year visit, honored family traditions are upheld and, in general, most of feel a little more lovey-dovey. Unfortunately, the larger your family gets, the more difficult it gets to share your time.

Every couple knows that things have gotten serious when you start discussing shared holidays. It starts with an innocent 4th of July barbecue. But six months later, your grandmother is crying because no one will appreciate her homemade cranberry sauce like you do. And secretly, you’re crying, because you’re really going to miss that cranberry sauce! Then comes December. Who gets Christmas Eve? What about Christmas morning? Day after brunch? What about extended families? More »

Party Favors: Your Condoms Could Be Coated In Vegetable Oil & Other Sex Risks To Freak You Out

Party Favors: Your Condoms Could Be Coated In Vegetable Oil & Other Sex Risks To Freak You Out

Your sex toy could lead to birth defects. – AOL Health

Here’s some etiquette rules to breaking off your engagement. – YourTango

And you thought the height difference between you and your boyfriend was a big deal. – The Frisky

Don’t worry, girls: he doesn’t listen to what his friends say, either. – College Candy

Now your Jewish mother can use technology to pick your boyfriend. – PR Newswire

Attractive people apparently have more daughters. Sorry, moms with boys… – Allure’s Daily Beauty Reporter More »

Modern Etiquette: What to Do When You’re a Thanksgiving Orphan

Modern Etiquette: What to Do When You're a Thanksgiving Orphan

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays – there’s a major emphasis on food and minimal emphasis on any kind of religion. However, Thanksgiving is supposed to be about family, so what happens when you don’t get to spend the day with your own family? I’m planning a trip to visit my parents at the end of December, so I don’t want to pony up cash to go twice in two months. There are a lot of people who are ‘Thanksgiving orphans’ – people whose families live far away, who have to work on the holiday weekend, who can’t afford plane fare, etc. So what’s an orphan to do? More »

Modern Etiquette: How to Apologize to a Friend You Hurt

Modern Etiquette: How to Apologize to a Friend You Hurt

Recently, two of my friends – we’ll call them Christina and Denise – had a falling-out. It sucks for me because I’m friends with both of them and don’t want to have to choose between them, but it also reminded me how hard it can be when you realize you’re in the wrong and need to apologize to one of your nearest and dearest. Here are a couple of things to keep in mind: More »

Modern Etiquette: Why You Should Not Send People Naked Pictures Of Yourself

Modern Etiquette: Why You Should Not Send People Naked Pictures Of Yourself

I’m in a long-distance relationship right now, and almost every article I’ve read about the subject involves keeping the fires burning by sending your partner naked or semi-naked pictures of yourself as a way to build anticipation for your next encounter. While that’s a nice idea in theory, there’s one problem with the plan, and that problem is called the internet. Even if you’re not worried about possibly becoming famous someday and your ex selling your photos to Star magazine, there are several other things to keep in mind. More »

Modern Etiquette: The Do’s And Don’ts of Posting Your Wedding on Facebook

Modern Etiquette: The Do's And Don'ts of Posting Your Wedding on Facebook

Planning a wedding should be a joyous time — albeit a stressful time — leading up to an even more joyous event filled with family, friends and love.

But for some people, getting engaged marks the beginning of a long life of oversharing on Facebook. It begins with 50 pictures of the proposal. Then the cheesy engagement photos. Then come the constant status updates about invitations, wedding colors and cake tastings, followed by a 300-photo album from the engagement session, 250 pictures of the shower, 101 images from the bachelorette party, and finally, the climactic 500-photo album of the wedding. More »