I recently did an interview in which I was asked how I became such a risk taker, and how other women can become more comfortable with risk.
I gave a long answer. Most of the time we hesitate to take risks, what we’re really afraid of isn’t jail or death: it’s embarrassment, rejection, and the feeling of failure. Those aren’t real things. Or at least you shouldn’t be cowed by them. They’re just feelings. I barely notice most of those feelings because I have a lot of projects going on, and I choose not to indulge unproductive feelings when I could instead be making future plans.
But the other part of my answer — well, I paused as I was saying it and wondered whether to keep saying it. I feel like much of my success has been contingent on doing things young women really shouldn’t do, or shouldn’t do alone. In polite society, we say, “Are you sure that’s safe?” What we really mean is, “You’re likely to get raped. Possibly murdered.”
I think about this every time I read a story about a musician who made a name for himself by traveling around the country and sleeping in his car. Women can’t really sleep in their cars. More
Only a sexy woman could commit such a sexy murder, right? More
In my upbringing, a nightie is not something I’ve ever worn. A nightgown or pajamas, sure, but a nightie has a different connotation to it. More
As we head into a three-day weekend, the editorial team here at The Gloss would like to remind our readers the importance of not murdering their girlfriends. Here are a few tips on how to make sure you too can avoid murdering your girlfriend.
Remember, if you and your girlfriend are having a disagreement, it’s very important not to murder her, no matter how wrong you think she is.
If you are unhappy in your relationship with your girlfriend and aren’t sure how to resolve things, try breaking up instead of committing murder. More
Movies don’t eat people. People eat people. More
I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that if your husband is trying to poison you, your first move should not be “write to Elle magazine.” Although, honestly, I do really like Jean’s advice, almost all the time, but this is insane. If you have good evidence that anyone is trying to poison you, do not pick up a pen. Do not write anyone. Pack your belongings and leave immediately. But, since I suppose it is not really that easy, A woman wrote Elle saying:
I suspect he’s putting something in my coffee. I notice it smells funny, and when I drink it, my eyes get superpuffy and swollen. I suspect he’s also adding stuff to my lotions and bath products, which created brown discolorations on my skin. My legs look as if they’re covered in snakeskin. My arms are dry as cracked earth. Same with my shampoos—whatever he’s putting in them makes my hair extremely dry and knotted. These are expensive, high-end products that I know from experience work well. My suspicions have been further aroused since he’s started ranting about my “using chemicals.” More
Yes, Rush Limbaugh said something really dumb and awful again. Here, editors Jennifer Wright and Ashley Cardiff discuss why it’s dumb, how it’s dumb and attempt to parse exactly what he meant recently when he said, “You know how to stop abortion? Require that each one occur with a gun” while discussing the Sandy Hook shooting. More
So, um, this is how much Justin Bieber’s balls are apparently worth on the black market. “WTF,” indeed. More
Calm down! Casey Anthony was spotted in a normal place! It’s not nearly as terrible as it could be. More
The tragic case of Maria Susana Flores Gamez has not been highly publicized for its mere violence; it’s been all over the news because she was a beauty queen. More
Everyone has those crushes that they would rather bury in the back of their closet beneath posters of AJ McLean and JC Chasez, a worn down Spiceworld VHS and Britney Spears cassette. I know I have definitely had my fair share, but perhaps the most mortifying is my eighth grade crush. More
How do you handle break-ups? More