Topic: parenting

Mind Over Mommy: Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

Mind Over Mommy: Self-Care Isn't Selfish

If you look up self-care and mental health on the internet, you’ll get a pretty muddled definition. You’ll find articles with images of beautiful women in bubble baths or doing yoga at sunrise in tropical locales. These articles will talk about manicures, spa days, wine, and treating yourself. At some point, they’ll discuss meditation and mindfulness practices, and just like so much literature from the fitness industry, they’ll present an unrealistic and unattainable image of what fulfilled motherhood and womanhood look like. More »

5 Body Love Rules I’m Teaching My Kids

5 Body Love Rules I'm Teaching My Kids

Instilling confidence in kids and teaching them to love and respect their bodies when the world gives them so many reasons to do the opposite is tough. I’m an eating disorder survivor, so body image is an exceptionally tricky subject for me, but also something I’m extremely passionate about. Here are some things I’m teaching my kids to help them love their bodies. More »

It’s Time To Stop Pretending Secondhand Smoke Isn’t Child Abuse

Itâs Time To Stop Pretending Secondhand Smoke Isnât Child Abuse

Many people struggle with an addiction to smoking cigarettes and parents aren’t immune. As difficult as it may be for non-smokers to understand, quitting the habit doesn’t suddenly become easier just because you find out you’re pregnant or become a parent. Lots of people still light up around their kids, even though they’re well aware of the studies that prove it’s damaging not just for them, but also for their children. The question is, does that constitute abuse? More »

Have Baby, Will Exercise: If You Want To Be Healthy, Don’t Diet

Have Baby, Will Exercise: If You Want To Be Healthy, Donât Diet

You don’t have to eat healthy in order to exercise and there’s nothing wrong with rewarding a particularly tough workout with a bowl of ice cream. But maintaining a healthy body weight can improve your overall health, and achieving that goal is easier if you both work out and are mindful about what you eat. Plus, if you’re working up a sweat on a regular basis you may find that you have more energy to get through the day when you eat nutritious foods. More »

Buying Clothes Is Not Fun When Your Daughter Looks Older Than She Is

Buying Clothes Is Not Fun When Your Daughter Looks Older Than She Is

Having a daughter to buy clothes for is supposed to be fun. According to friends of mine with all boys, I am “lucky” to be able to pick out girl outfits. I partly agree — it was fun, until the last year or so. Sadly, my daughter is starting to look much older than her seven years would suggest. Now, I have a whole new set of criteria for what I’m ok with her wearing and it’s made shopping for her not as much fun as it’s supposed to be. More »

Why Do Babies Make Men Babe Magnets, And Women Undateable?

Why Do Babies Make Men Babe Magnets, And Women Undateable?

When a father goes out in public with his child, it is a near certainty that someone (usually a woman) will make an admiring comment about what a “great” job he’s doing or possibly, quietly note how “hot” he is doing it. As a society, we set the bar low for what makes a dad “great” and being a dad makes a man sexier to a great many women. Meanwhile, a mother can perform the exact same feat and she’s either totally overlooked or admonished for some kind of parental wrong-doing. More »

An Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn’t Have To Ruin Your Life

An Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn't Have To Ruin Your Life

Growing up in my childhood home I heard a common refrain: don’t get pregnant when you’re young because it will ruin your life. My mom had me at 23 and though she never expressed resentment towards me, I knew she gave up a lot to raise me. I knew her life didn’t look the way she wanted it to look, and I was determined to follow her advice and not make those same mistakes. More »

Celebrating Your Anniversary With Small Kids: Expectations Vs. Reality

Celebrating Your Anniversary With Small Kids: Expectations Vs. Reality

I don’t have high expectations for my wedding anniversaries. I’ve never been the type to demand expensive gifts or elaborate displays of affection. Still, I always assumed anniversaries would be meaningful occasions where both my husband and I would go out of our way to make the day a bit more special. What I didn’t anticipate was how difficult it would be to get five seconds to ourselves once we had babies running around. More »