After allegedly assaulting a woman, former pro athlete Jose Canseco has taken to Twitter to tell half a million followers the woman’s personal information, as well as showing what she looks like. More
Topic: rape culture
Since when did coaching stop being about helping players achieve their highest potential as a team and, instead, about sexually threatening them? More
There are many truly awful things in the world, but once in a while, we read or hear something that makes us choke up and nearly vomit. More
On the morality scale, returning a lost wallet is certainly on the “good” side of things. I mean, being caught using somebody’s lost credit card or license is illegal and wrong anyway, but still — it’s obviously better than, say, taking the money and throwing the wallet at a passing biker’s head.
But is it good enough to negate assault? Uhm…uhm…uhm…absolutely not. More
Elizabeth Smart, anti rape advocate, has some very smart things to say about abstinence only education. More
“Do I tell him that he was raped or do I let him continue thinking it was just an unfortunate incident? Am I victimizing him or is society?” More
In a story that sounds like every awful tale of rape, bullying and perpetrator-forgiveness as of late, a teenage girl was sexually assaulted by a star athlete at Forest Hills Central High School in Michigan in a soundproof band room. When she reported the incident to a teacher, who then told the principal, she was instructed not to tell police about the rape, as it could jeopardize her rapist’s chances of getting recruited for a college team. Her rapist, you see, was star of the school’s basketball team.
I realize this sounds strange and a bit dramatic and it’s not a huge consolation, but in the event that you have been raped and are experiencing this type of bullying, just know that we support you, we believe you, and we don’t forgive your attacker. More
Did you think you were done being outraged over various details associated with the Steubenville rape case just because it ended in a guilty verdict? Of course not, because you live in the real world, where grown ass men side with rapists because they want to win a game. More
Clearly, nobody has yet listened to any of the advice for defeating rape culture that I posted yesterday.
A 16-year-old girl in Fairfax, Virginia has been “asked to leave” (i.e. expelled from) Catholic prep school Paul VI after a topless photo she sent to a male friend got shared around by everyone on the lacrosse team. Meanwhile, the boys on the lacrosse team received no punishment. Come again? More
The most powerful word in the English language is “NO.” More
Yesterday, we reported on the story of a 17-year-old girl from Nova Scotia named Rehtaeh Parsons who was allegedly gang raped while drunk, photographed, bullied incessantly and denied justice from all able parties until she attempted suicide. It reminded us of two things: Steubenville, and that people can be absolutely horrible to other people and face zero repercussions.
As Jamie asked yesterday, “What, if anything, can we do to keep things like this from happening over and over again?” What can we do, but also what will we do? More
I recently did an interview in which I was asked how I became such a risk taker, and how other women can become more comfortable with risk.
I gave a long answer. Most of the time we hesitate to take risks, what we’re really afraid of isn’t jail or death: it’s embarrassment, rejection, and the feeling of failure. Those aren’t real things. Or at least you shouldn’t be cowed by them. They’re just feelings. I barely notice most of those feelings because I have a lot of projects going on, and I choose not to indulge unproductive feelings when I could instead be making future plans.
But the other part of my answer — well, I paused as I was saying it and wondered whether to keep saying it. I feel like much of my success has been contingent on doing things young women really shouldn’t do, or shouldn’t do alone. In polite society, we say, “Are you sure that’s safe?” What we really mean is, “You’re likely to get raped. Possibly murdered.”
I think about this every time I read a story about a musician who made a name for himself by traveling around the country and sleeping in his car. Women can’t really sleep in their cars. More
When I saw Spring Breakers last week, I came out feeling two distinct things: 1.) That is was the most thorough indictment of the American dream since The Great Gatsby, and 2.) That despite the film being rather un-subtle about explicating its themes, a whole bunch of people weren’t going to get it, and that was going to annoy the hell out of me. Unsurprisingly, some reviewers did get it while others didn’t, at all. But the person who got it the least might be Heather Long, the author of this trollsome article in The Guardian called “Spring Breakers isn’t just a terrible movie, it reinforces rape culture.” More
Apparently, the “play” fighting as youngsters teaches them how to process the difference between real hurt and play hurt. But is there ever “play” hurt? More