Topic: real talk

Real Members Of The BDSM Community Tell Us What They Think Of 50 Shades Of Grey

Real Members Of The BDSM Community Tell Us What They Think Of 50 Shades Of Grey

When I first learned about “mommy porn” sensation 50 Shades Of Grey, I immediately wondered what actual members of the BDSM community might think of it. On the one hand, it’s gotten people talking about BDSM on an unprecedentedly massive level; on the other, it spreads misconceptions that are potentially quite harmful. So I asked some non-fictitious, practicing members of the BDSM community their opinions on the book. Their answers varied somewhat, but most of them came down on the side of “kill it with fire.” (I’m using images of flowers to represent them because nothing says “Twilight-y sexual euphemisms” to me like some flowers.) More »

Real Talk: How Do You Stay STD And Baby-Free?

Real Talk: How Do You Stay STD And Baby-Free?

You know what’s great? Avoiding unplanned pregnancies. It’s probably the best thing about being a responsible adult, besides maybe eating cake for dinner sometimes. So, in the wake of a certain internet fiasco, we decided to talk to a bunch of smart, responsible, female adults who 1) care about their health and 2) care about the health of their partners… and therefore practice safe sex.

This is not to say that people don’t make mistakes–condoms break and no form of birth control is 100% effective–but it is to say that adults who make mistakes learn from them. Otherwise, they’re not adults. So, for today’s Real Talk we asked women to tell us about their preferred methods of protection. More »

Real Talk: Men Tell Us If They Like Fake Breasts

 Real Talk:  Men Tell Us If They Like Fake Breasts

After our poll on plastic surgery yesterday, we thought “but wouldn’t it be weird to be all breast-squeezing and such and then come upon… whatever fake breasts feel like? Bags of sand, maybe? That must be so weird!” We have a hard time describing “foreplay.” But there seem like there are women who want to make a point out of how their breasts are real, so we asked male friends whether or not encountering fake breasts would bother them. Also, whether they feel like bags of sand More »

Real Talk: Does Shejaculation Ever Happen In Real Life?

Real Talk: Does Shejaculation Ever Happen In Real Life?

Female ejaculation is something only porn stars do, right? Right? OR IS IT? Maybe it’s happening to everyone all the time! Maybe you feel awkward now! We polled a group of our male and female friends to hear whether it happens in the regular course of events, or if it’s something that only trained professionals attempt. We’ll accompany their thoughts with some very subtle pictures of women in front of fountains.
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Real Talk: Would You Hire A Male Prostitute?

Real Talk: Would You Hire A Male Prostitute?

Last week, Marie Claire taught me yet another thing that I as a female need to dread: my hypothetical fiance (otherwise totally marriage material) might get goaded into sleeping with a prostitute at his bachelor party. Which is a total bum-out (and so we asked women if they, too, were bummed out by this). Anyway, I started wondering, why aren’t there any titillating exposes of women sleeping with male sex workers at bachelorette parties? Moments later, I realized the answer. But! It was still worth asking a bunch of ladies if they’d ever hire a gigolo. Answers ranged mostly from “No!” to “No and here’s why” but they all greed that yes, every living one of us would gladly pay to have sex with Richard Gere in American Gigolo. More »

Real Talk: Women Tell Us Their Thoughts On Threesomes

Real Talk: Women Tell Us Their Thoughts On Threesomes

Yesterday, we published the thoughts of various men on the timeless topic of group sex. Many of the guys we talked to were all about it, while others were like, “hey now, get that second naked chick out of here, I’m afraid I might have too much fun.” Today, we’re giving the ladies a chance to chime in, and as with the men, their answers are varied and colorful. Feel free to add your own thoughts and experiences in the comments below. More »