At yesterday’s ESSENCE Black Women In Hollywood Luncheon, Lupita gave a truly beautiful speech about self-image, beauty, and being a black woman. You might want to get a tissue handy, because this ish is seriously emotional. More
Earlier this week, The Talk‘s Julie Chen revealed the fact she’d undergone double eyelid surgery, in order to have a career onscreen. This was depressing for a number of reasons–some pertaining to racism, to sexism, to toxic self-image. But the accompanying before and after photo (below) actually distracted from the weight of the issue because it appeared that, in addition to revealing her eyelid surgery, Chen might have also inadvertently revealed a dramatic nose job. More
I moved to New York a little over one month ago. So far, I love my job, I like my apartment, I enjoy the food and, despite the many warnings I received prior, I have already made some very, very snazzy friends. In all honesty, the only thing that has been really stressful is the deep and unsettling feeling that I am not pretty enough to live here. More
The other day, our writer Amanda reflected on how she wishes she could learn to take a compliment after an uncomfortable incident with a flattering partner. For those who hate links, the gist of the situation: he called her sexy, she got annoyed, he insisted she learn to take a compliment, she got angry, he got upset, she told him he would soon lose a testicle if he pushed the discussion further. As she wrote, all Amanda really wants to say to those who flatter her is, “Shut the fuck up and quit being nice for the sake of being nice,” but wondered if anybody else had advice on how to take a compliment.
Including some suggestions from you readers, here are a few recommendations for those (myself included) who have a bit of a hard time with flattery. More
I am not better than sex work, not even a little bit. More
At 14-years-old, I went from a 118 lb. size 0 to a 140 lb. size 8/10 in just nine months. Nine months. Think of the last time you gained enough weight to constitute a size jump, and imagine that a few times over. My body could not accommodate this level of growth and — voila! Stretch marks abound.
(Somewhat NSFW, by the way: bra shots and underboob shots and thigh cream, so if you’ve got a stricter workplace, I’d save this one for a wee bit later.) More
You are not a duckling, you are not a swan, you are not a home improvement project: you are a person. More
We all know that growing up with Barbie can leave some girls feeling a little inadequate. Here is a possible reason why. More
Everybody’s shallow! And sexist! More
Have you often thought to yourself, “I believe Amy Winehouse’s problems can really be traced back to the fact that people frequently took ugly photos of her?” More
Don’t try to tell me Young Frankenstein’s Monster doesn’t look like Gary Cooper. Young Frankenstein’s Monster has a healthy self image, okay? Stop crushing that. More
Over at College Candy, there’s a moving post by a young woman who regrets the way she lost her virginity. In her case, it was with the right person but at the wrong time – in an impetuous moment while she was grieving the loss of a friend. While I certainly sympathize with the anonymous author of the post, I also want to tell her something: it’s not a big deal. More
The concept of making New Year’s resolutions goes as far as 153 BC with the mythical king of Rome, Janus. Janus, having two faces (not unlike most people I know), was able to reflect on the past year as well as foresee the upcoming future, and in doing so became the symbol of resolutions. It was the beginning of the New Year that Romans sought forgiveness from their enemies, exchanged gifts and also perceived the New Year as a fresh start and a clean slate of sorts. I, however, have never bought into the whole New Year’s resolution thing… as of January 1st you just get a free “do-over?” Sounds like something invented by Weight Watchers and not the Romans, if you ask me. So here’s an idea: fuck the New Year’s resolutions, you know you’re not going to stick to it anyway. Instead, use these five reasons as your excuses as to why you’re not doing that whole resolution thing… your friends will marvel at your wisdom. More
Do you have issues with your no-longer-best girlfriend? Is your coworker driving you crazy? Megan Carpentier is here to give you the life advice that you don’t want to hear, told in the way you absolutely need to hear it. … More