Topic: Sex Workers

Harlotry: On Arguing With SWERFs (Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminists)

Harlotry: On Arguing With SWERFs (Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminists)

I lived in my cozy little sex worker-friendly utopia for quite a while before I realized that all was not just “rights not rescue” hashtags and descriptions of the harm of stigma that spanned several tweets. There was a dark side to sex worker Twitter, and it wasn’t in the small divisions and little tiffs between the anti-capitalists and the libertarians or the misandrists and women who truly, deeply love men. The dark side of sex worker Twitter is caused entirely by the frequent invasion by sex worker exclusionary radical feminists (SWERFs) and trans exclusionary radical feminists (TERFs). More »

Harlotry: Why I’m Only Friends With Sex Workers

Harlotry: Why I'm Only Friends With Sex Workers

I don’t really have any close female friends who aren’t current or former sex workers. I have plenty of civilian acquaintances, but it’s rare for my relationships with non-family civilians to get any more serious than a “hey, what’s up? You’re doing fine, great, me too!” kind of bond.

This is good and bad. It adds to the isolation of my work, but at the same time it shields me from a lot of the unfortunate aspects of trying to be friends with civilians. More »

Harlotry: The Very Annoying Girls Who Dabble Like Tourists In The Sex Industry

Harlotry: The Very Annoying Girls Who Dabble Like Tourists In The Sex Industry

The tourists are the women who believe that all it takes to be successful in the industry is a pretty face and a nice body. They have no concept of sex worker stigma, beyond some fuzzy concept that stripping will be “cool,” “edgy,” “fun,” or worse, “empowering.” Sure, the industry is somewhat forbidden to nice girls like them, but their dabblings in sex work are all about not being a nice girl anymore–about going home for Thanksgiving dinner and thinking, “nobody knows I’m a sex worker” while they get a second helping of mashed potatoes from Uncle Jerry or Aunt Jane or whoever. More »

One City Is Finally Spending Money On Improving The Safety Of Sex Workers

One City Is Finally Spending Money On Improving The Safety Of Sex Workers

As we’ve learned from the writer in our wonderful Harlotry series, sex workers face a lot of difficulties when it comes to safety issues — often because of the laws that are supposed to “protect” citizens that, in reality, make sex workers’ lives much harder. Fortunately, some places in the world seem to actually see these women (and men) as human beings and want to improve conditions. More »