I’ve been given some pretty terrible career advice over the years. I think it’s time to flip the script. More
Have you ever gotten to the “Skills” section of your resumé and been a little embarrassed?
Sometimes you want to say, “Sure, my skills are pretty much talking and writing and doing normal stuff, but REALLY, REALLY WELL.” Yeah, you can’t really put that either. You need proof. You need quantification. More
My new motto: “Dine like a dilettante! Labor like a Calvinist!” More
Do you want to be like Simone de Beauvoir and Sartre? Or are you more into being June Cleaver and… that husband of hers, the one who was always coming back form work? Is your idea of romance discussing business … More
Sometimes, people do things that are not technically “ethical” to get ahead in the workplace. Does that make them sociopaths? Or fun, cool people it would be interesting to talk to? Take this case: More
Every couple of years when I was in elementary school in Virginia, my whole class would answer a questionnaire about our skills and interests. Two weeks or so later, we would receive recommendations of careers we would enjoy. Someone told me the test had been developed by the Boy Scouts, and that seemed to make sense, because I had read a few Hardy Boys novels, and it seemed to me that the test had been developed by the Boy Scouts circa 1955. More
Nineteen days ago, the Wall Street Journal ran Amy Chua’s Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior. As of today, there are 7,590 comments. A few days ago, at 5,700 comments, the WSJ remarked that the piece had already generated more comments than any other in the history of the Wall Street Journal, which is quite astounding when you think about how much the cool kids these days enjoy typing “ha ha u suck” beneath articles about hedge fund derivatives. More
On The Bachelor, several of the girls went on a NASCAR-themed group date. The problem? One of the girls lost her fiance, a NASCAR driver, in a plane crash. Not cool. – PopWatch
The female equivalent of the penis sock worn by actors while filming sex scenes is a “vag pad.” – Crushable
“We always hated him,” “Why do you have such problems with men?,” and other things you should never say to someone who just got dumped. – The Frisky
Apparently there’s some kind of love-themed holiday coming up next month. If you want to have a date in time for said holiday, you should probably read this. – Betty Confidential
Would you ever quit your job so that you could focus on your relationship? Charlotte from Sex and the City was unavailable to comment. – YourTango
If you spend more quality time with your computer than your partner, this will be especially relevant to your interests. More
There are lots of things — such as having your phone turned off for not paying the bill and deciding not to shave your pits because you love nature — that are sort of cute when you’re young and adorable and become increasingly grotesque as you age. There’s a life cycle on hapless damsel-in-distress behavior — even Sandra Bullock has outlived her ability to play a winsome, helpless idiot in our nation’s romantic comedy industry. More
Recently, a colleague of mine — a 24 year old woman in the market for a new assistant — told me that her previous assistants had complained that she never said thank you. “I hate saying thank you to people just for doing their jobs! Why should I have to thank them?”
(Note that, on Mad Men (Season 4, “The Suitcase”), Peggy Olson similarly complained “You never say thank you,” leading Don Draper to thunder, “THAT’S WHAT THE MONEY IS FOR!”) More
If you live to be 85, you will get to be alive for 744,600 hours. If you have a forty-year career during which you spend about an hour a day in meetings 50 weeks a year, that’s about 10,000 hours, or 1.3% of your life, or 2% of your waking hours.
I don’t know about you, but if anything gets 2% of all the waking hours I get for my entire life, it really ought to involve liquor, orgasms, or receiving personalized trophies. More
A lot of career-related writing targeted towards women emphasizes work-life “balance.” So you should really take some time out and nurture yourself, right?
Actually, I’d keep that to a minimum right now. “Balance” is not for the young and sprightly — instead, think of work-life balance over the course of your entire life. Do you intend to retire some day? Would you like to have a baby and invest substantial time in caring for it? If there is some phase of your life during which you will be working 15 hours a week, then maybe you should work 60 now. More